Be proud of yourself for flying solo. You should choose to stay alone because one day you will realise that having unwanted relationships with people won’t guarantee you happiness.
Your mind isn’t going to find out all the answers in life just because you’re inspired by someone’s care and affection.
Some of us do it by choice. Some of us do it because we have to. But for most of us, during our lifetime, at some stage we will have to live alone. It can be a great time for independence and learning. Living alone can engender a sense of control and freedom.
When you live alone you begin to enjoy your own company. You learn to be happy with yourself.
When you start to be yourself you will practice far more self-acceptance and self-love. You learn to trust yourself more. When you live alone it’s all on you. You develop your own ideas and opinions. You will learn what you are capable of without the constraints of other people’s thinking.
Everyone says I don’t care
Everyone says I’m positive
Everyone says I’m happy all the time
You go home and see everyone will be depressed as hell in their lives.
Overthinking overshadows your appreciation for life and replaces calmness with anxiety and misery.
I strongly believe in growing my spirituality, not my ego. Trying to cultivate a habit of constantly remembering to be grateful. It takes time and a lot of reminders to myself when I am low, however, I hope, with time this will become a lens through which I view my life rather than being in a moment or a day in my life. This helps me stay down to earth and understand situations.
Being grateful can actually improve your mood, your attitude and even your life.
Here’s a story to learn more about gratitude:
One day, there’s a crow that was flying through the forest. He had an amazing life. He was completely satisfied with it until he flew by a lake and saw the most beautiful bird that he had ever seen a swan. This Swan is so white he thought, and I’m so black this is the most beautiful bird that I’ve ever seen. He must be the happiest bird in the world so the crow flew down and expressed his thoughts to the Swan. The Swan thanked him but said actually I used to be the happiest bird in the world until I saw the parrot. Have you ever seen a parrot? It’s beautiful it has two colours. It’s enchanting to look at and now I think that the parrot must be the happiest bird in the world.
So the crow took off and found the parrot and explained this to him. I lived a very happy life until I saw a peacock. The parrot said I only have two colours, but the peacock has so many colours so the crow decided to try to find this peacock. He took off and decided to visit him at the zoo and he had never seen anything like a peacock before.
It was beautiful in all of the colours. It was green, blue, black, purple and when it moved the colours changed in the sunlight and the hundreds of people gathered around just to see the peacock and take pictures of this amazing bird and after the people had left the crow approached the peacock and said Mr. peacock you’re so beautiful. Every day thousands of people come to see you. It must be amazing when people see me they just immediately show me away. You must be the happiest bird on the planet.
The peacock responded and said I’ve always thought that I was the most beautiful bird on the planet and I always thought that I was probably the happiest too but because of my beauty. I’m trapped inside of this zoo and I’ve examined the zoo very carefully and I’ve realized that you Mr. crow you’re the only bird that’s not kept in a cage so far. The past few months I’ve been wishing that I were a crow because if I were a crow I’d be the happiest bird in the world. I could happily roam anywhere than my heart desired and at this moment the Crow realized how great his life actually was and all of the things that he was taking for granted.
Although this was just a story about birds. I think it’s exactly the way that we think because what do we do we scroll through social media and see other people’s lives and they always look so happy and they look so beautiful and we wish that we could have the things that they have and we make these unnecessary comparisons and don’t appreciate in value what we have and this vicious circle leads to so much unhappiness.
Look there’s always someone who’s going to look happier than you. There’s always someone that’s going to have more than you but the happiest people in the world are not the ones who have everything.
The happiest people in the world are the ones who are satisfied with everything that they already have.
As I have grown up, I know everything can’t be mined in a jiffy. I have to continuously work hard for it and show patience. The story below tugged at my heart so deeply that I wanted to share it with all of you.
A father said to his daughter “You have graduated with honours, here is a car I bought many years ago. It is a bit older now but before I give it to you, take it to the used lot downtown and tell them you want to sell it and see how much they offer you for it.”
The daughter went to the used car lot, returned to her father and said “They offered me $1,000 because they said it looks pretty worn out.”
Then father said, “Take it to the pawnshop.” The daughter went to the pawnshop, returned to her father and said, “The pawnshop offered only $100 because it is an old car.”
The father asked her to go to a car club now and show the car. The daughter then took the car to the club, returned and told her father,” Some people in the club offered $100,000 for it because it’s a Holden Torana and it’s an iconic car and sought by many collectors.”
Now the father said this to his daughter,” The right place values you the right way.” If you are not valued, do not be angry, it means you are in the wrong place. Those who know your value are those who appreciate you. Never stay in a place where no one sees your value.
We think love is just something we give to others, we should remember that it’s also a gift we can give ourselves every day! We spend so much of our energy cultivating healthy relationships and building up those we love. So why do so many of us not treat ourselves with the same love & care? BE GOOD TO YOURSELF.
Always be the best person you can be. Be kind even when you’re tired. Be understanding even when you’re angry. Give some advice to yourself instead of expecting it from someone else. Best advice for yourself:
Educate yourself – read, read, read.
Be healthy & look after your body.
Don’t wait for someone to love you, learn to love ‘YOURSELF’ first.
Save money – weekly, monthly, annually. It doesn’t matter how much. Just save!
When you mess up, make up for it the next moment or minute or day.
Do more than you’re asked & don’t ask for anything in return.
Be confident in your intentions and keep your eyes ahead instead of wasting your time on those who want to drag you back. Because you can’t change people’s views.
You have to believe that true change for yourself comes from within you, not from anyone else.