Acceptance, Gratitude, Positive Mindset, Self-Love

I Am not Beautiful Like You, I Am Beautiful Like Me

The self-love shifts have changed my life. The first shift that really, really changed my life, and it sounds so simple, but it’s a huge one, is I began to listen to my heart. I began to listen to that inner voice and that intuition, because my entire life, I lived my life listening to what other people told me to do.

I listened to what my parents told me to do, what my teachers and society and peers were suggesting to me to do. I never felt confident in myself and my own voice. Anytime I had to make a decision, I would ask everyone around me for what they thought and I would value their opinions over my own.

So what really changed in my life in my early thirties, as I started to realize, I can’t live my life listening to other people. I have to listen to this voice within because deep down, I truly know what feels right and what’s best for me.

Listening to your heart, listening to that inner voice, is the most powerful guide you have because that is going to lead you to where you’re meant to go in life. If you listen to other people, if you live your life trying to impress other people or get other people’s approval, you’re just going to be led astray and you’re not going to feel happy and fulfilled.

The second shift that changed my life is I started to discover and nurture my own gifts, strengths, and talents. I felt like I didn’t really know myself that well before I was in my early twenties. I just kind of went about life and some things I might’ve been good at, like writing, but I never really took the time to really understand myself and reflect and recognize what I’m good at.

What personality quirks do I have? Why do people like being around me? I didn’t recognize the talents and the gifts that I had, and when I didn’t know what I was meant to do in life, that’s what I really had to search to figure out

who I am,

what I’m good at,

what I love to do.

And that journey in just exploring all these different things that I was curious about or interested in, that journey led me to really understand myself, where my strengths lie. And once you understand where your strengths and gifts and talents lie, that’s kind of like your toolkit. That’s what you use to create your dream life because that is your best chance to create value in the world, meaning it’s your best chance for maybe a career path or a life path.

It’s your best chance to feeling fulfilled along the way, because you feel happy and fulfilled when you’re doing things that you’re good at and things that you love doing. So if you don’t know what those are for you yet, that’s totally okay.

I simply suggest you go out and find it, to have the courage to go out and explore, try new things, figure out what you’re good at. Maybe ask the people around you what’s unique about you.

What are your strengths?

What do they think you have about you that is special, that is different from others?

Because we all have things that make us unique and knowing that is our power.The third self love shift that changed my life for real is being gentle on myself,learning not to be so hard on myself,because I was a person that always put such high expectations and pressures on myself –obviously a trickle-down from the expectations my parents put on me, but it just became my own voice that I would push myself to succeed.

I would push myself and I would suffer because of it. I would never feel good enough. And I would be a perfectionist. And with everything that I created, it just never felt perfect. It never felt right. And I just didn’t feel good about it. Or I just felt like it was a struggle through all my journeys, because I was hard on myself for the little mistakes or failures that I might’ve made along the way. The mindset shift that hugely changed my life was learning to give more love to myself and recognizing that if you love yourself –if you love a person, you’re not going to be so hard on them.

You’re going to just naturally gently support them. And if they make a mistake or if they fail, that’s okay, it’s a part of life. So it just allows you to be more accepting of yourself. Once you give yourself love, you accept yourself, everything is more okay.

Nothing is the end of the world. Life will go on and you’re just less stressed that way. There’s less of a pressure and less burden than if you were to be hard on yourself and be super perfectionist about everything.

Positive Mindset, Uncategorized

Calming your nerves right before you step into the spotlight: 2.0 Version – The Prophecy

By- TIMESOFINDIA.COM | Jan 5, 2025, 12:28 IST

 In news that is bound to inspiration for many, from no one, Prabhjot Kaur to a well-known entrepreneur in digital marketing and motivational speaker.  More importantly, she is striving to be an above-average mother, wife and friend. She is a big knowledge seeker, outgoing & open-minded. Previously, a full-time mother.

She had a background in engineering. After achieving her undergraduate degree in Electronics & Communication. She was given the opportunity to work with one of the Indian leading corporations. But lately, it was time to change. So, she had decided to start a new life as an MBA.

In the year, she got masters; the same year she also got promoted in her marital status. Ergo, she had decided to stay at home to give more time to her marriage. It comes as a part of ‘meant to be together. While carrying the responsibilities as a homemaker; she did B.Ed., a dietician course and learned yoga. That helped immensely one way or other. In 2020, she started working on her version 2.0 with the help of her mentor ‘Digital Deepak’.

She has a keen interest in how people make deep connections with each other through learning – mostly online. Her interest in the above made her further dive into the endeavour of learning digital marketing. She is now a successful blogger (gladsomejyot.in) and is the CEO of Gladsomejyot.Ltd, a company that specifically sets out to help individuals and organizations develop, train and grow, earning more than $50 million a year. Apart from her successful career, she is a part-time radio jockey by the name “RJ PJ” as a hobby.

She also got an opportunity to publish her first book “Infuse Satisfaction Albatross Perfection”. She’s a professional in Facebook ads, google ads, SEOs, Affiliate marketing, digital freelancer and Personal Brander.

PJ’s ultimate goal is to Remember, Re-think and Respond. She is a great source of motivation for anyone wanting to be successful.

 

Acceptance, Gratitude, Positive Mindset

Past Doesn’t Matter/ Past Doesn’t Matter Anymore

The main thing about any experience is learning. Yes, you must. It doesn’t mean you forget it. It just means you will always take those lessons you learned, whatever it was, and just keep it as a reference, like something you’ve experienced that you can learn from Good or Bad.

You must live in the present. By having experienced something horrible, it doesn’t make you horrible. It just makes you that much wiser. But we must strive to stay in the present. That is all we have and we will ever have. The past has already been lived and we can’t change it.

The future is not here yet but if we live a good present, our past will start to transform into a good one, as you look back, and the future will be along the uplifted road that you are creating from the positive present.

Yesterday is history, Tomorrow is a mystery But Today is a gift, that is why it is called the ‘Present’.

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Motivation, Positive Mindset

Words Of Wisdom

One day, I want to honestly say,” I Made It.”

As I have grown up, I know everything can’t be mined in a jiffy. I have to continuously work hard for it and show patience. The story below tugged at my heart so deeply that I wanted to share it with all of you.

A father said to his daughter “You have graduated with honours, here is a car I bought many years ago. It is a bit older now but before I give it to you, take it to the used lot downtown and tell them you want to sell it and see how much they offer you for it.”

The daughter went to the used car lot, returned to her father and said “They offered me $1,000 because they said it looks pretty worn out.”

Then father said, “Take it to the pawnshop.” The daughter went to the pawnshop, returned to her father and said, “The pawnshop offered only $100 because it is an old car.”

The father asked her to go to a car club now and show the car. The daughter then took the car to the club, returned and told her father,” Some people in the club offered $100,000 for it because it’s a Holden Torana and it’s an iconic car and sought by many collectors.”

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Now the father said this to his daughter,” The right place values you the right way.” If you are not valued, do not be angry, it means you are in the wrong place. Those who know your value are those who appreciate you. Never stay in a place where no one sees your value.

Never!

Positive Mindset, Power of Learning

Let Bygone Be Bygone

As I approach the twilight of my life, I also often remind myself “Be Here Now.” The main thing about any experience is learning. It’s so important that we stop allowing our past to take up so much of our present and future. Because it exists only in your mind. It’s not real.

Like people say “The past may be visited sometimes, but it’s definitely not a good place to live in. I feel it’s okay to be lost in regret or sadness of a past incident. That’s why we are humans, not God. Yeah, however, make sure it’s TEMPORARY. It would be better if instead, we try to heal ourselves in the present through family and friends.

Every one of us has the ability to shift our thinking, shift our perspective; make new decisions that will forge a new direction in our lives. Don’t buy into the story that others may try to sell you,” Present Good, Past Bad.” That seems to be a victim mentality.

Inimical to this. I believe:

Let the Past Live!

Let the Present Live!

Let the Future Live!

They all run together. The past existed for a reason. If it still affects you, you might need to accept it and move on, rather than try to convince yourself it doesn’t matter. So in other words, acknowledge the past but not live in the past. What had happened at that time was bad, but do not be bad forever.

Overthinking will kill your peace. Pray and leave it in God’s hands.

Always embrace the new day!

Mental Health, Positive Mindset

Mind Map of the Strong and Weak

One of my friends is always active on social media. She hires a professional photographer along with her, no matter where they go or what they do, the whole family just looks beautiful and she’s always posting about how blessed she is. And I get the feeling that she’s not just saying those things for the sake of social media, but she truly means it. Anyhow while scrolling her life sometimes I feel depressed. I started passing judgments about her in any manner. We all do this, right? It’s hard not to do. But that way of thinking costs us something.

What are bad habits costs us?

Maybe you scrolled through your social media feed and you thought,” So what if I roll my eyes? It’s just five seconds of my time. How could it be hurting me?” Well, researchers have found that envying your friends on social media actually leads to depression.

Why do others have all the luck? This simple question is the main culprit. This way of thinking keeps you stuck, keeps you focused on the problem. We try to escape it by doing things like hosting a pity party; although it’s a temporary distraction, it just prolongs the pain.

There are three kinds of destructive beliefs that make us less effective and rob our mental strength:

  1. Unhealthy beliefs about ourselves.
  2. Unhealthy beliefs about others.
  3. Unhealthy beliefs about the world.

Knowing it and doing it, can be two different things. Our journey taught us that the secret to being mentally strong is that you have to give up your bad mental habits. Mental strength is a lot like physical strength. Always have hope that someday life could get better.

So, how do you give up those bad mental habits that you’ve carried around with you?

You need good habits like practising gratitude. But you also have to give up bad habits, like resenting somebody else’s success. No matter how often that happens, it will hold you back. The only way to get through uncomfortable emotions, is you have to go through them. To let yourself feel sad and then move on. To gain confidence in your ability to deal with that discomfort. Don’t compare yourself with others.

Your world is what you make it. They believe that you can change it is the small step you have to take. Improvement on a daily basis is our motto. Improve your unhealthy beliefs which are keeping you away from being as mentally strong.

Uplift yourself by the power of your mind. Don’t degrade yourself; you can only do so when you take charge of your mind. This will happen only when you stop playing the blame game. Well, to be happy you need nothing. It’s just a choice that you are making.