Acceptance, Gratitude, Positive Mindset, Self-Love

I Am not Beautiful Like You, I Am Beautiful Like Me

The self-love shifts have changed my life. The first shift that really, really changed my life, and it sounds so simple, but it’s a huge one, is I began to listen to my heart. I began to listen to that inner voice and that intuition, because my entire life, I lived my life listening to what other people told me to do.

I listened to what my parents told me to do, what my teachers and society and peers were suggesting to me to do. I never felt confident in myself and my own voice. Anytime I had to make a decision, I would ask everyone around me for what they thought and I would value their opinions over my own.

So what really changed in my life in my early thirties, as I started to realize, I can’t live my life listening to other people. I have to listen to this voice within because deep down, I truly know what feels right and what’s best for me.

Listening to your heart, listening to that inner voice, is the most powerful guide you have because that is going to lead you to where you’re meant to go in life. If you listen to other people, if you live your life trying to impress other people or get other people’s approval, you’re just going to be led astray and you’re not going to feel happy and fulfilled.

The second shift that changed my life is I started to discover and nurture my own gifts, strengths, and talents. I felt like I didn’t really know myself that well before I was in my early twenties. I just kind of went about life and some things I might’ve been good at, like writing, but I never really took the time to really understand myself and reflect and recognize what I’m good at.

What personality quirks do I have? Why do people like being around me? I didn’t recognize the talents and the gifts that I had, and when I didn’t know what I was meant to do in life, that’s what I really had to search to figure out

who I am,

what I’m good at,

what I love to do.

And that journey in just exploring all these different things that I was curious about or interested in, that journey led me to really understand myself, where my strengths lie. And once you understand where your strengths and gifts and talents lie, that’s kind of like your toolkit. That’s what you use to create your dream life because that is your best chance to create value in the world, meaning it’s your best chance for maybe a career path or a life path.

It’s your best chance to feeling fulfilled along the way, because you feel happy and fulfilled when you’re doing things that you’re good at and things that you love doing. So if you don’t know what those are for you yet, that’s totally okay.

I simply suggest you go out and find it, to have the courage to go out and explore, try new things, figure out what you’re good at. Maybe ask the people around you what’s unique about you.

What are your strengths?

What do they think you have about you that is special, that is different from others?

Because we all have things that make us unique and knowing that is our power.The third self love shift that changed my life for real is being gentle on myself,learning not to be so hard on myself,because I was a person that always put such high expectations and pressures on myself –obviously a trickle-down from the expectations my parents put on me, but it just became my own voice that I would push myself to succeed.

I would push myself and I would suffer because of it. I would never feel good enough. And I would be a perfectionist. And with everything that I created, it just never felt perfect. It never felt right. And I just didn’t feel good about it. Or I just felt like it was a struggle through all my journeys, because I was hard on myself for the little mistakes or failures that I might’ve made along the way. The mindset shift that hugely changed my life was learning to give more love to myself and recognizing that if you love yourself –if you love a person, you’re not going to be so hard on them.

You’re going to just naturally gently support them. And if they make a mistake or if they fail, that’s okay, it’s a part of life. So it just allows you to be more accepting of yourself. Once you give yourself love, you accept yourself, everything is more okay.

Nothing is the end of the world. Life will go on and you’re just less stressed that way. There’s less of a pressure and less burden than if you were to be hard on yourself and be super perfectionist about everything.

inspiration, Motivation, Self-Love

When I’m Alone, I Think

Be proud of yourself for flying solo. You should choose to stay alone because one day you will realise that having unwanted relationships with people won’t guarantee you happiness.

Your mind isn’t going to find out all the answers in life just because you’re inspired by someone’s care and affection.

Some of us do it by choice. Some of us do it because we have to. But for most of us, during our lifetime, at some stage we will have to live alone. It can be a great time for independence and learning. Living alone can engender a sense of control and freedom.

 

When you live alone you begin to enjoy your own company. You learn to be happy with yourself.

When you start to be yourself you will practice far more self-acceptance and self-love. You learn to trust yourself more. When you live alone it’s all on you. You develop your own ideas and opinions. You will learn what you are capable of without the constraints of other people’s thinking.

Everyone says I don’t care

Everyone says I’m positive

Everyone says I’m happy all the time

You go home and see everyone will be depressed as hell in their lives.

Overthinking overshadows your appreciation for life and replaces calmness with anxiety and misery.

Stop.

Let life flow naturally.

Self-Love

Stop Caring What Other People Think of You

Other people’s opinion of you does not have to become your reality. The truth is that all of us get to decide who we are. My experience as a learner is that we are simply the collection of the things that we believe to be true about ourselves and once we begin to form that opinion of who we are. We’ll act in accordance with that belief.

 

Here we go then, we begin to shape a vision of ourselves in our own mind and that becomes the reality. So letting other people influence means that letting other people come in and degrade us.

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What we think of ourselves is one of the most dangerous and damning things that we could do; because they cloud our ability to craft a vision of the person that we want to become and that vision is so hard for all of us to hold on to that.

  • We have to protect it
  • We have to keep other people out of that
  • We have got to have intention in creating the person that we want to become
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It’s got to be deliberate. It’s not about trying to reflect what you think is true. It’s about reflecting on what we want to be true.

Once we have that kind of agenda going into something and building ourselves into someone that we want to be and we protect it; we don’t let others crowd it then we can morph and evolve into something beautiful, powerful or someone who’s capable of doing the things that we want to do.

Keep Going 🙂

Acceptance, Self-Love

Believe In Yourself

Asking this question, ‘s a very important question and that question is “Do You Believe In Yourself?” You must have seen that a lot of people say they believe but the reality is their actions. Don’t demonstrate it. It is reflected in your life choices and it is reflected in your behaviour.

Today, I’m gonna relate the term “Believe In Yourself” with the “Law Of Attraction.”

The law of attraction says that whatever desires we have in our mind, however strong that desire is, it will be fulfilled sooner or later. Whether, it be a good desire or a bad one, whether, it be positive or a negative.

Let’s look at an example, Once an interviewer asked a candidate to choose between five easy questions or one tough question. The candidate chose one tough question. The interviewer asked him which came into existence first chicken or egg. He said chicken. The interviewer said explain your answer. Immediately, he said you said only one tough question.

That’s how we learned, the interview is not knowledge assessment but personality assessment. They don’t care whether you know the answer or not. They just want to know how you handle it, with what personality, with what confidence, with what situational brilliance do you handle an interview.

In fact, a confident ‘I don’t know the answer but if you want, I can find it; is the better answer rather than the incorrect answer. This is the power of “Believe In Yourself.” And the ladder of the belief is your desires, thinking, speaking and actions.

When we start becoming conscious about what we are saying, thinking and doing then it will be so easy to reflect upon how we go through certain situations in our life. What happens when your mind starts becoming clean, clear? The whole world becomes like a mirror in front of you. It becomes like a reflection of your own self.

So, you start seeing people around you to be loving, to be caring, to be positive. Hence, you see that behaviour in someone else as well. That is the law of attraction.

What we can do today, is to focus and try to catch those thoughts that we have in our mind. From there, we can try to improve on a daily basis.

Keep Smiling 😊

Keep Shining 🔆

Keep moving and be unstoppable ✌