One of my friends is always active on social media. She hires a professional photographer along with her, no matter where they go or what they do, the whole family just looks beautiful and she’s always posting about how blessed she is. And I get the feeling that she’s not just saying those things for the sake of social media, but she truly means it. Anyhow while scrolling her life sometimes I feel depressed. I started passing judgments about her in any manner. We all do this, right? It’s hard not to do. But that way of thinking costs us something.
What are bad habits costs us?
Maybe you scrolled through your social media feed and you thought,” So what if I roll my eyes? It’s just five seconds of my time. How could it be hurting me?” Well, researchers have found that envying your friends on social media actually leads to depression.
Why do others have all the luck? This simple question is the main culprit. This way of thinking keeps you stuck, keeps you focused on the problem. We try to escape it by doing things like hosting a pity party; although it’s a temporary distraction, it just prolongs the pain.
There are three kinds of destructive beliefs that make us less effective and rob our mental strength:
- Unhealthy beliefs about ourselves.
- Unhealthy beliefs about others.
- Unhealthy beliefs about the world.
Knowing it and doing it, can be two different things. Our journey taught us that the secret to being mentally strong is that you have to give up your bad mental habits. Mental strength is a lot like physical strength. Always have hope that someday life could get better.
So, how do you give up those bad mental habits that you’ve carried around with you?
You need good habits like practising gratitude. But you also have to give up bad habits, like resenting somebody else’s success. No matter how often that happens, it will hold you back. The only way to get through uncomfortable emotions, is you have to go through them. To let yourself feel sad and then move on. To gain confidence in your ability to deal with that discomfort. Don’t compare yourself with others.
Your world is what you make it. They believe that you can change it is the small step you have to take. Improvement on a daily basis is our motto. Improve your unhealthy beliefs which are keeping you away from being as mentally strong.
Uplift yourself by the power of your mind. Don’t degrade yourself; you can only do so when you take charge of your mind. This will happen only when you stop playing the blame game. Well, to be happy you need nothing. It’s just a choice that you are making.