Awareness

Why Is Gossip Seen As A Negative Thing?

The word ‘Gossip’ is from Old English- godsibb, from god and sibb, the term used for the godparents of one’s child or the parents of one’s godchild, generally very close friends.

The term originates from the event of the birth of a child which was exclusively attended by women.

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But how did it gain a different meaning?

Well, in medieval times, a child’s birth was like a huge social event. During the labour pain, ‘godsibbs’ provided moral support to the mother. And this is how men started associating gossip with women.

Gossip was actually a bonding experience for all the women of the community but was perceived as ‘meaningless chatter’ by men. Over time, gossip came to mean talk of others.

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That the ‘Scold’s Bridle’ was a gruesome mask used as punishment for “Rude, clamorous woman,” who were considered to be spending too much gossiping or quarrelling in Medieval times.

Even widows, old women, and those abandoned by their husbands were banished from ‘talking too much.’ Even comforting each other was seen as a waste of time.

Modern-Day ‘Gossip’

In the 19th and 20th centuries, the concept of gossip as a negative thing associated with women strengthened even more.

Even today when women talk about anything, especially about other women, they are labelled as catty, bitchy, or spiteful.

But why is gossip seen as something negative?

Since women try to help each other out and protect each other from the potential threats from the patriarchal society, men have labelled it as ‘bitchy’ to turn women against each other.

In fact, a study by Megan Robbins shows that – 74.3% of all sampled gossip in the study was neutral, meaning not positively or negatively evaluative.

So, now that we know what gossip was intended to do- form a strong bond and help each other.

Let’s work towards spreading, the actual meaning of GOSSIP!

 

 

 

 

Motivation, Positive Mindset

Words Of Wisdom

One day, I want to honestly say,” I Made It.”

As I have grown up, I know everything can’t be mined in a jiffy. I have to continuously work hard for it and show patience. The story below tugged at my heart so deeply that I wanted to share it with all of you.

A father said to his daughter “You have graduated with honours, here is a car I bought many years ago. It is a bit older now but before I give it to you, take it to the used lot downtown and tell them you want to sell it and see how much they offer you for it.”

The daughter went to the used car lot, returned to her father and said “They offered me $1,000 because they said it looks pretty worn out.”

Then father said, “Take it to the pawnshop.” The daughter went to the pawnshop, returned to her father and said, “The pawnshop offered only $100 because it is an old car.”

The father asked her to go to a car club now and show the car. The daughter then took the car to the club, returned and told her father,” Some people in the club offered $100,000 for it because it’s a Holden Torana and it’s an iconic car and sought by many collectors.”

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Now the father said this to his daughter,” The right place values you the right way.” If you are not valued, do not be angry, it means you are in the wrong place. Those who know your value are those who appreciate you. Never stay in a place where no one sees your value.

Never!

Personal Data

Electronic Personal Diary Cum Blog

In my early teenage, I used to write a personal diary but later on, I left it. Then at my younger age, I had started writing again. That time I gave a name to my diary as ‘The diary of a Young Girl” which includes my middle childhood, adolescence and my early adulthood.

As an adult, it was a time for me when I was at my physiological peak. I was focusing on my future and putting a lot of energy into making choices that will help me to earn the status of a full adult in the eyes of others. Love and work were my primary concerns. The young are not afraid of telling the truth, so as with my ‘the diary of a young girl. That was my shadow and one day I burnt it to enter my new life.

Et voila! I’m here again on my electronic personal diary cum blog. And why I’m here so that I don’t burn it again. Well jokes apart, this time I want to connect with as many as people I can, to help them, create something beautiful, make mine and other peoples’ day more productive and better, to improve my writing ability, last but not the least to break out of my shell. For me, it can the best place to collect my thoughts. Instead of paper, writing here is a great way for me to meet new, like-minded people. Past joys and past mistakes, can all be learned from to some extent. So having somewhere to store those memories, can help me to see how far I’ve come and how much I’ve learned.