Acceptance, Going Through Tough Times, Learning, Mental Health, Motivation

Going Through Tough Times!

You just want to step out of it.

Depression, frustration, anxiety, pain, disillusion. It’s just a natural part of the process of becoming a stronger version of ourselves.

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If somebody is going through tough times or struggling just to keep your head above water; you’re trying but things don’t seem to be quite working out the way you planned.

We thought we’d be in a different place at this season in our life. But we are still suffering

Actually, we need that tough time on ourselves to develop. Because tough times ain’t just tough, it’s like food, a nutrient that gives us the strength to make our life worth the time.

Everything that we see that’s beautiful.

Quote Life Must Go On - Kumpulan quote kata bijak

The only thing we have to do for ourselves is to every single day. When uncertainty creeps in;

Just Get Up and Go Heavy On It.

Then something happens that we didn’t expect to happen

It’s just we have to be willing to go after our vision, our dreams.

We can’t keep quitting our whole life, we can’t keep backing up. Taking two steps forward or backwards. Whatever! But must do something.

We have the ability

We have the power

We have to have the power to break past. The opportunities never run out.

Shift your mindset, take the action and crave success even if you already have it.

Don’t stop until you’re proud.

If you get tired, learn to rest, not quit.

If you’re going through hell, keep going. – Winston Churchill

Stop beating yourself up. You are a work in progress which means you get there a little at a time, not all at once.

What makes a boy a “man” and a girl a “woman”? Courage and the willingness to keep going when life gets hard.

If one dream should fall and break into a thousand pieces, never be afraid to pick one of those pieces up and begin again. – Flavia Weedn

Awareness

Why Is Gossip Seen As A Negative Thing?

The word ‘Gossip’ is from Old English- godsibb, from god and sibb, the term used for the godparents of one’s child or the parents of one’s godchild, generally very close friends.

The term originates from the event of the birth of a child which was exclusively attended by women.

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But how did it gain a different meaning?

Well, in medieval times, a child’s birth was like a huge social event. During the labour pain, ‘godsibbs’ provided moral support to the mother. And this is how men started associating gossip with women.

Gossip was actually a bonding experience for all the women of the community but was perceived as ‘meaningless chatter’ by men. Over time, gossip came to mean talk of others.

Further tuned in to 

That the ‘Scold’s Bridle’ was a gruesome mask used as punishment for “Rude, clamorous woman,” who were considered to be spending too much gossiping or quarrelling in Medieval times.

Even widows, old women, and those abandoned by their husbands were banished from ‘talking too much.’ Even comforting each other was seen as a waste of time.

Modern-Day ‘Gossip’

In the 19th and 20th centuries, the concept of gossip as a negative thing associated with women strengthened even more.

Even today when women talk about anything, especially about other women, they are labelled as catty, bitchy, or spiteful.

But why is gossip seen as something negative?

Since women try to help each other out and protect each other from the potential threats from the patriarchal society, men have labelled it as ‘bitchy’ to turn women against each other.

In fact, a study by Megan Robbins shows that – 74.3% of all sampled gossip in the study was neutral, meaning not positively or negatively evaluative.

So, now that we know what gossip was intended to do- form a strong bond and help each other.

Let’s work towards spreading, the actual meaning of GOSSIP!

 

 

 

 

Mental Health, Positive Mindset

Mind Map of the Strong and Weak

One of my friends is always active on social media. She hires a professional photographer along with her, no matter where they go or what they do, the whole family just looks beautiful and she’s always posting about how blessed she is. And I get the feeling that she’s not just saying those things for the sake of social media, but she truly means it. Anyhow while scrolling her life sometimes I feel depressed. I started passing judgments about her in any manner. We all do this, right? It’s hard not to do. But that way of thinking costs us something.

What are bad habits costs us?

Maybe you scrolled through your social media feed and you thought,” So what if I roll my eyes? It’s just five seconds of my time. How could it be hurting me?” Well, researchers have found that envying your friends on social media actually leads to depression.

Why do others have all the luck? This simple question is the main culprit. This way of thinking keeps you stuck, keeps you focused on the problem. We try to escape it by doing things like hosting a pity party; although it’s a temporary distraction, it just prolongs the pain.

There are three kinds of destructive beliefs that make us less effective and rob our mental strength:

  1. Unhealthy beliefs about ourselves.
  2. Unhealthy beliefs about others.
  3. Unhealthy beliefs about the world.

Knowing it and doing it, can be two different things. Our journey taught us that the secret to being mentally strong is that you have to give up your bad mental habits. Mental strength is a lot like physical strength. Always have hope that someday life could get better.

So, how do you give up those bad mental habits that you’ve carried around with you?

You need good habits like practising gratitude. But you also have to give up bad habits, like resenting somebody else’s success. No matter how often that happens, it will hold you back. The only way to get through uncomfortable emotions, is you have to go through them. To let yourself feel sad and then move on. To gain confidence in your ability to deal with that discomfort. Don’t compare yourself with others.

Your world is what you make it. They believe that you can change it is the small step you have to take. Improvement on a daily basis is our motto. Improve your unhealthy beliefs which are keeping you away from being as mentally strong.

Uplift yourself by the power of your mind. Don’t degrade yourself; you can only do so when you take charge of your mind. This will happen only when you stop playing the blame game. Well, to be happy you need nothing. It’s just a choice that you are making.

Acceptance, Gratitude

Peaceful Living

My life and all of our lives are filled with challenges that make it a bit difficult to be peaceful sometimes. Peaceful living leads us to be a creative thinker and smarter decision-maker.

“Never be in hurry; do everything quietly and in a calm spirit. Do not lose your inner peace for anything whatsoever, even if your whole world seems upset.”—Saint Francis

 

As far as I am concerned, peacefulness keeps me good-humoured, spirited & friendly to others. Here I go, to demonstrate my panorama on peaceful living:

A formula that can be applied to any situation in life that I have learnt from Shri Guru Granth Sahib Ji.

i.e. ACCEPTANCE.

ACCEPTANCE= PEACEFUL LIVING

The first thing is the moment you receive a consequence, Accept it. Whatever consequence is, first is Acceptance. Accept the unchangeable. Nothing can be done about it. It has to be accepted which means, the moment you accept it your peace is automatically protected. It is the power of Acceptance.

You know, why we get angry? Something is happening or something is about to happen; not the way I want it, that makes me angry. My non-acceptance makes it anger, a negative emotion, but when I am able to accept it, it becomes tolerance. My acceptance makes it tolerance, a positive emotion. Like this, the chain of emotions going on & on & on.

If I confer about another emotion, Fear. Such as, I am scared of public speaking and meeting. Maybe that’s why I have started writing. Well, back to the point, now the question arises, when do you feel fear? Whenever you face uncertainty, you feel fear. That leads you not to be adventurous or risk-taker.

Because you don’t want to face any uncertainty, you will not take part in any adventurous sport or event. Infect in the mode of context, nobody can be in business if you don’t want to face uncertainty. In reality in this modern world, doing business is an adventurous sport.

When I am facing uncertainty and I am not able to accept it, it becomes fear for me and when I am able to accept, it becomes an adventure. Furthermore, if someone hurts me and I am not able to accept, it becomes Hatred or if I accept, it becomes Forgiveness.

Something + non-acceptance is Anger, a negative emotion.

Something + acceptance is Tolerance, a positive emotion.

Something + non-acceptance is Fear, a negative emotion.

Something + acceptance is Adventure, a positive emotion.

The moment we turn our non-acceptance into acceptance, in that very instance, negative emotion will become positive emotion.

Hatred becomes Forgiveness,

Jealousy becomes Inspiration,

Fear becomes Adventure,

Anger becomes Tolerance,

Negative becomes Positive

When you change, your life changes. If you be worried, will change something out there in the world then, it makes sense but the universal truth is worrying don’t change anything. Executing acceptance is the only option.

“Radical acceptance is key to a peaceful life.”