One of the reasons we’re so busy right now is because of the way the world is going right now and you know it could get into a depressing conversation but it’s the reality of what’s going on right now.
We have a lot of violence and we have a lot of anger in our society and we have a lot of random acts of violence happening. So to me, if there’s any time it’s the right time to start.
It’s today and you know I encourage people to whatever community they live in to do their research and find a school that’s not about breaking noses, that’s not about going and hurting others it’s about the like I told you before the mind-body and be your own superhero.
It’s that understanding of what you’re really here for. It is not just the punches and kicks. In fact, we learn martial arts we study hard and we hit each other and we share bruises. You know train hard to never have to use it.
So at this point, I think the most important thing is to learn how to defend yourself but on top of that as I stated before it’s all their different rewarding gifts that the martial arts a good program could benefit your life I mean all those things that we discussed with the confidence and the social skills.
I have a quick story to share with you all, which I heard from my trainer. He had an adult that came to him. He’s probably in his mid-20s, if not his late 20s. Our trainer always asks some questions to a new student.
What did you sign up for?
What do you want from me?
Basically, what are you here for?
What do you want from this program?
He said I need confidence. I’m not here to learn how to kick but I mean I’d like to learn how to defend myself, because I want this program to bring confidence within me. So that, I need to be able to hold myself differently at my job.
I’ve always been shy I’ve struggled with shyness. In my life, because of this shy nature I cannot mix or interact with other people. Even I cannot interact properly with my parents and siblings. I have no friends. As such shyness made me unsocial. Other people found me self-centred and egoistic.
After searching the solution everywhere. I got to know about self-defence. It helps to improve ones’ self-confidence. Maybe training in the same strengthens me, it will help me to know myself. It will embed respect for myself in me.
Knowing that I have the ability to defend myself will give me the confidence and freedom to fully explore the world, meet new people and find new ways to engage with others. I’ll enjoy the freedom to its fullest. Additionally, it makes me fit and yeah it is cool.
So self-defence helps us somehow or another.
Women and young girls for several reasons can benefit from self-defence.
Every girl across the globe should learn to protect herself by getting herself prepare through self dense techniques. In this entire world, it becomes a necessity for one individual. Respecting each and every female is one honour and disrespecting or harming any female will harm you back.
The self-love shifts have changed my life. The first shift that really, really changed my life, and it sounds so simple, but it’s a huge one, is I began to listen to my heart. I began to listen to that inner voice and that intuition, because my entire life, I lived my life listening to what other people told me to do.
I listened to what my parents told me to do, what my teachers and society and peers were suggesting to me to do. I never felt confident in myself and my own voice. Anytime I had to make a decision, I would ask everyone around me for what they thought and I would value their opinions over my own.
So what really changed in my life in my early thirties, as I started to realize, I can’t live my life listening to other people. I have to listen to this voice within because deep down, I truly know what feels right and what’s best for me.
Listening to your heart, listening to that inner voice, is the most powerful guide you have because that is going to lead you to where you’re meant to go in life. If you listen to other people, if you live your life trying to impress other people or get other people’s approval, you’re just going to be led astray and you’re not going to feel happy and fulfilled.
The second shift that changed my life is I started to discover and nurture my own gifts, strengths, and talents. I felt like I didn’t really know myself that well before I was in my early twenties. I just kind of went about life and some things I might’ve been good at, like writing, but I never really took the time to really understand myself and reflect and recognize what I’m good at.
What personality quirks do I have? Why do people like being around me? I didn’t recognize the talents and the gifts that I had, and when I didn’t know what I was meant to do in life, that’s what I really had to search to figure out
who I am,
what I’m good at,
what I love to do.
And that journey in just exploring all these different things that I was curious about or interested in, that journey led me to really understand myself, where my strengths lie. And once you understand where your strengths and gifts and talents lie, that’s kind of like your toolkit. That’s what you use to create your dream life because that is your best chance to create value in the world, meaning it’s your best chance for maybe a career path or a life path.
It’s your best chance to feeling fulfilled along the way, because you feel happy and fulfilled when you’re doing things that you’re good at and things that you love doing. So if you don’t know what those are for you yet, that’s totally okay.
I simply suggest you go out and find it, to have the courage to go out and explore, try new things, figure out what you’re good at. Maybe ask the people around you what’s unique about you.
What are your strengths?
What do they think you have about you that is special, that is different from others?
Because we all have things that make us unique and knowing that is our power.The third self love shift that changed my life for real is being gentle on myself,learning not to be so hard on myself,because I was a person that always put such high expectations and pressures on myself –obviously a trickle-down from the expectations my parents put on me, but it just became my own voice that I would push myself to succeed.
I would push myself and I would suffer because of it. I would never feel good enough. And I would be a perfectionist. And with everything that I created, it just never felt perfect. It never felt right. And I just didn’t feel good about it. Or I just felt like it was a struggle through all my journeys, because I was hard on myself for the little mistakes or failures that I might’ve made along the way. The mindset shift that hugely changed my life was learning to give more love to myself and recognizing that if you love yourself –if you love a person, you’re not going to be so hard on them.
You’re going to just naturally gently support them. And if they make a mistake or if they fail, that’s okay, it’s a part of life. So it just allows you to be more accepting of yourself. Once you give yourself love, you accept yourself, everything is more okay.
Nothing is the end of the world. Life will go on and you’re just less stressed that way. There’s less of a pressure and less burden than if you were to be hard on yourself and be super perfectionist about everything.
We think love is just something we give to others, we should remember that it’s also a gift we can give ourselves every day! We spend so much of our energy cultivating healthy relationships and building up those we love. So why do so many of us not treat ourselves with the same love & care? BE GOOD TO YOURSELF.
Always be the best person you can be. Be kind even when you’re tired. Be understanding even when you’re angry. Give some advice to yourself instead of expecting it from someone else. Best advice for yourself:
Educate yourself – read, read, read.
Be healthy & look after your body.
Don’t wait for someone to love you, learn to love ‘YOURSELF’ first.
Save money – weekly, monthly, annually. It doesn’t matter how much. Just save!
When you mess up, make up for it the next moment or minute or day.
Do more than you’re asked & don’t ask for anything in return.
Be confident in your intentions and keep your eyes ahead instead of wasting your time on those who want to drag you back. Because you can’t change people’s views.
You have to believe that true change for yourself comes from within you, not from anyone else.