Acceptance, Gratitude, Positive Mindset, Self-Love

I Am not Beautiful Like You, I Am Beautiful Like Me

The self-love shifts have changed my life. The first shift that really, really changed my life, and it sounds so simple, but it’s a huge one, is I began to listen to my heart. I began to listen to that inner voice and that intuition, because my entire life, I lived my life listening to what other people told me to do.

I listened to what my parents told me to do, what my teachers and society and peers were suggesting to me to do. I never felt confident in myself and my own voice. Anytime I had to make a decision, I would ask everyone around me for what they thought and I would value their opinions over my own.

So what really changed in my life in my early thirties, as I started to realize, I can’t live my life listening to other people. I have to listen to this voice within because deep down, I truly know what feels right and what’s best for me.

Listening to your heart, listening to that inner voice, is the most powerful guide you have because that is going to lead you to where you’re meant to go in life. If you listen to other people, if you live your life trying to impress other people or get other people’s approval, you’re just going to be led astray and you’re not going to feel happy and fulfilled.

The second shift that changed my life is I started to discover and nurture my own gifts, strengths, and talents. I felt like I didn’t really know myself that well before I was in my early twenties. I just kind of went about life and some things I might’ve been good at, like writing, but I never really took the time to really understand myself and reflect and recognize what I’m good at.

What personality quirks do I have? Why do people like being around me? I didn’t recognize the talents and the gifts that I had, and when I didn’t know what I was meant to do in life, that’s what I really had to search to figure out

who I am,

what I’m good at,

what I love to do.

And that journey in just exploring all these different things that I was curious about or interested in, that journey led me to really understand myself, where my strengths lie. And once you understand where your strengths and gifts and talents lie, that’s kind of like your toolkit. That’s what you use to create your dream life because that is your best chance to create value in the world, meaning it’s your best chance for maybe a career path or a life path.

It’s your best chance to feeling fulfilled along the way, because you feel happy and fulfilled when you’re doing things that you’re good at and things that you love doing. So if you don’t know what those are for you yet, that’s totally okay.

I simply suggest you go out and find it, to have the courage to go out and explore, try new things, figure out what you’re good at. Maybe ask the people around you what’s unique about you.

What are your strengths?

What do they think you have about you that is special, that is different from others?

Because we all have things that make us unique and knowing that is our power.The third self love shift that changed my life for real is being gentle on myself,learning not to be so hard on myself,because I was a person that always put such high expectations and pressures on myself –obviously a trickle-down from the expectations my parents put on me, but it just became my own voice that I would push myself to succeed.

I would push myself and I would suffer because of it. I would never feel good enough. And I would be a perfectionist. And with everything that I created, it just never felt perfect. It never felt right. And I just didn’t feel good about it. Or I just felt like it was a struggle through all my journeys, because I was hard on myself for the little mistakes or failures that I might’ve made along the way. The mindset shift that hugely changed my life was learning to give more love to myself and recognizing that if you love yourself –if you love a person, you’re not going to be so hard on them.

You’re going to just naturally gently support them. And if they make a mistake or if they fail, that’s okay, it’s a part of life. So it just allows you to be more accepting of yourself. Once you give yourself love, you accept yourself, everything is more okay.

Nothing is the end of the world. Life will go on and you’re just less stressed that way. There’s less of a pressure and less burden than if you were to be hard on yourself and be super perfectionist about everything.

Awareness, Grateful, Mental Health

You Have Got The Power!

I would tell my younger self to love myself. I didn’t love myself in my 20s or in my early 30s. Now in my mid-30s, I have discovered self-love in life. A lot of women are very hard on themselves, they beat themselves up on a lot of things, that they shouldn’t.

This beautiful Rangoli is made by a housewife, not any so-called artist.

But baby you gotta put yourself first. The person who will never leave us, whom we will never lose, is ourselves. Learning to love our female selves is where our search for love begins. As a woman sometimes we get into a habit of not putting ourselves first. And at times I even hear from other ladies that the idea of putting yourself first seems selfish. And there are women who live unhealthy lifestyle because they actually struggle to find time for themselves.

Being a ‘Good Girl’ can be exhausting, mentally draining and totally unnecessary. I strongly feel this is just another entrenched social norm that needs to break slowly. Just another stereotypical thinking that needs to go away. Over the long term, if you ignore your own physical, emotional and financial needs you will burn out.

One of the ways to change this is by – Discussing what you actually NEED. Many women find it hard to tell their family, partner, colleagues or friends what they really want. This reluctance may spring from unequal power dynamics or an unconscious belief that a woman your needs simply aren’t that important and can take a back seat now.

So make a list of things that would make your life easier or happier, whether it’s equalizing housework, a raise or a weekend with your girlfriends, family. Then, share your needs in a straightforward, respectful tone- no apologies required.

So let’s get radical and start making self-care a priority!

Respect Your Efforts, Respect Yourself!

Mental Health, Positive Mindset

Mind Map of the Strong and Weak

One of my friends is always active on social media. She hires a professional photographer along with her, no matter where they go or what they do, the whole family just looks beautiful and she’s always posting about how blessed she is. And I get the feeling that she’s not just saying those things for the sake of social media, but she truly means it. Anyhow while scrolling her life sometimes I feel depressed. I started passing judgments about her in any manner. We all do this, right? It’s hard not to do. But that way of thinking costs us something.

What are bad habits costs us?

Maybe you scrolled through your social media feed and you thought,” So what if I roll my eyes? It’s just five seconds of my time. How could it be hurting me?” Well, researchers have found that envying your friends on social media actually leads to depression.

Why do others have all the luck? This simple question is the main culprit. This way of thinking keeps you stuck, keeps you focused on the problem. We try to escape it by doing things like hosting a pity party; although it’s a temporary distraction, it just prolongs the pain.

There are three kinds of destructive beliefs that make us less effective and rob our mental strength:

  1. Unhealthy beliefs about ourselves.
  2. Unhealthy beliefs about others.
  3. Unhealthy beliefs about the world.

Knowing it and doing it, can be two different things. Our journey taught us that the secret to being mentally strong is that you have to give up your bad mental habits. Mental strength is a lot like physical strength. Always have hope that someday life could get better.

So, how do you give up those bad mental habits that you’ve carried around with you?

You need good habits like practising gratitude. But you also have to give up bad habits, like resenting somebody else’s success. No matter how often that happens, it will hold you back. The only way to get through uncomfortable emotions, is you have to go through them. To let yourself feel sad and then move on. To gain confidence in your ability to deal with that discomfort. Don’t compare yourself with others.

Your world is what you make it. They believe that you can change it is the small step you have to take. Improvement on a daily basis is our motto. Improve your unhealthy beliefs which are keeping you away from being as mentally strong.

Uplift yourself by the power of your mind. Don’t degrade yourself; you can only do so when you take charge of your mind. This will happen only when you stop playing the blame game. Well, to be happy you need nothing. It’s just a choice that you are making.

Acceptance, Self-Love

Believe In Yourself

Asking this question, ‘s a very important question and that question is “Do You Believe In Yourself?” You must have seen that a lot of people say they believe but the reality is their actions. Don’t demonstrate it. It is reflected in your life choices and it is reflected in your behaviour.

Today, I’m gonna relate the term “Believe In Yourself” with the “Law Of Attraction.”

The law of attraction says that whatever desires we have in our mind, however strong that desire is, it will be fulfilled sooner or later. Whether, it be a good desire or a bad one, whether, it be positive or a negative.

Let’s look at an example, Once an interviewer asked a candidate to choose between five easy questions or one tough question. The candidate chose one tough question. The interviewer asked him which came into existence first chicken or egg. He said chicken. The interviewer said explain your answer. Immediately, he said you said only one tough question.

That’s how we learned, the interview is not knowledge assessment but personality assessment. They don’t care whether you know the answer or not. They just want to know how you handle it, with what personality, with what confidence, with what situational brilliance do you handle an interview.

In fact, a confident ‘I don’t know the answer but if you want, I can find it; is the better answer rather than the incorrect answer. This is the power of “Believe In Yourself.” And the ladder of the belief is your desires, thinking, speaking and actions.

When we start becoming conscious about what we are saying, thinking and doing then it will be so easy to reflect upon how we go through certain situations in our life. What happens when your mind starts becoming clean, clear? The whole world becomes like a mirror in front of you. It becomes like a reflection of your own self.

So, you start seeing people around you to be loving, to be caring, to be positive. Hence, you see that behaviour in someone else as well. That is the law of attraction.

What we can do today, is to focus and try to catch those thoughts that we have in our mind. From there, we can try to improve on a daily basis.

Keep Smiling 😊

Keep Shining 🔆

Keep moving and be unstoppable ✌